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Sign in (using email and password.) -
Click on profile -
On the top right hand side of the screen there is a tab that says privacy (click on it) -
Then click on profile (the following is a list of good security measures to make under the profile section) -
Click the dialogue box that says profile and it will give you 3 options (choose the one that says “only my friends”) this will only allow your friends to view your profile. -
There are six categories in the profile section. By clicking each section you will see choices for privacy settings. The best privacy settings should be as follows: Status updates- Only my friends, Videos tagged of you- Only my friends, Photos tagged of you- Only my friends, Online status- No one, Friends- Only my friends, Wall- Only my friends -
Also under profile you will find a section called Contact Information. Upon originally setting up a face book account the user was given an option to list personal information such as: IM Screen name, mobile phone, land phone, current address, email address, and website. Please remember this information is optional. With that in mind I suggest not listing it all. If you do choose to allow your student to list this information choose the option “only my friends”. -
Also under profile you will find a section called Applications in your profile. This controls what portions of your profile are viewable to others. With all of the other settings being set to “only my friends” this step is really not applicable. But just for security measures set the following: Posted items, Groups, Fun wall – to Only my friends. -
VERY IMPORTANT! In order to save all of the changes you have made click the “save” button at the bottom of the page. -
After you have saved your changes, you will automatically be sent back to the privacy page. Click on who can find me in search and see my private search listing -
You will see an option that will say which facebook users can find me in search: select everyone (this allows anyone with a facebook account to search for your student, this does not mean they can see their profile) -
Under the heading titled who can find my public search listing outside of Facebook? There will be two boxes: “Allow anyone to see my public search listing” or “Allow my public search listing to be indexed by external search engines”. Leave both of these boxes unchecked. -
Under the heading titled What can people do with my search results: leave “poke you” and “view your friend list” unchecked. -
In order to save all of the changes you have made click the “save” button at the bottom of the page. -
After you have saved your changes you will automatically be sent back to the privacy page. There are still 3 categories that we have not discussed left on this page: (1) News, feed and mini feed, (2) Poke, message and friend request and (3) applications. Each of these categories are more of personal preferences than security issues. If the previously discussed security measures are taken this will insure that no one will have access to your students account unless given permission by your student. 
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Sign in (with email and password) -
After you sign in to the right of the users picture will be a tab that says account settings (click on it) -
There will be a tab at the top of the page that says privacy (click on it) -
Under the general privacy tab the security settings should be as follows: ONLINE NOW- unchecked, PROFILE VIEWABLE BY- friends only, PHOTOS- unchecked, BLOCK USER BY AGE- unchecked. -
In order to save all of the changes you have made click the save all changes at the bottom of the page. -
Scroll back to the top of the page and click the tab that says spam -
The first heading will say spam presets. Underneath that heading, move the bar to “custom”. -
The next heading will read communication settings. The list goes as follows: MESSAGES: check the box that says “require captcha for non-friends to send me messages”. FRIEND REQUEST: check the box that reads “require last name or email address”. COMMENTS: check the boxes that read “require approval before comments are posted” and “only friends can add comments to my blog”. GROUP INVITATIONS: check the box that reads “allow only my friends”. EVENT INVITAIONS: check the box that reads “allow only my friends”. IM INVITATIONS: leave the box unchecked -
In order to save all of the changes you have made click the “save all changes” at the bottom of the page. -
There are still 4 categories that we have not discussed left on this page: (1) Notifications (2) Mobile (3) Calendar (4) Misc. Each of these categories are more of personal preferences than security issues. If the previously discussed security measures are taken this will insure that no one will have access to your students account unless given permission by your student
Which
is more important to pass on to your kids– material items or Godly
traits?
How
much does your lifestyle reflect the values of our materialistic
society?
What
are your goals for the next 5 or 10 years? Are they primarily money
oriented?
If
your kids wrote a definition of “success” based on what they’ve
seen in your home what would they say?
Do
your kids see you competing with or jealous of your neighbors?
Do
you wish for things your don’t have, feeling having these items
would make your life better?
Do
you refer to your “wants” as “needs”?
Would
your kids say you focus on what you don’t have or are you grateful
for what you do have?
Someone
once said, “You tell me who or what you spend your time daydreaming
about, and I’ll tell you who or what your god is.”
What
do you daydream about?
Our
teens are growing up in a culture that teaches money equals success.
It is hard even as an adult not to get wrapped up in the pursuit of
material things. We all want to be happy and feel a sense of
fulfillment and our society teaches that the more things a person has
the happier they are. From the outside looking in this can sometimes
appear to be true. But if we stopped and really examined this
mindset I think we would quickly find that this is an empty promise.
There are plenty of people in our world right now who are rich and
absolutely miserable. By the culture’s standard Lindsay Lohan &
Britney Spears are successful business people; they have fame and
fortune. Yet these two young ladies are struggling with their life
decisions.
Modern
day teens are chasing the “American Dream” The sensible plan is
to do well in high school, go to college, get a promising degree so
you can get a high paying job, then you can have a big house, nice
car, and every item that will make you comfortable and happy.
Achieving these goals is not necessarily bad, but is that really what
it is all about? I fear that many of our teens are chasing after an
unattainable goal. The hunger for money never seems to be satisfied.
Once we obtain one thing we move on to the next. What happens when
the bar for success is set so high our teens can never reach it?
Maybe the better question would be what happens when our teens reach
their goal for “success” and it still leaves them feeling empty?
Our
modern day teens are the most money hungry generation to exist, and
yet the number of kids confused about their purpose in life is at an
all time high. What does this say about the values they have
absorbed? As adults we should examine the model we are setting for
the younger generation in this area. If they looked at the way we
live how would they say we define success? Is it by great jobs,
fancy cars and big houses? Or is by being a person who finds their
joy in loving God and loving others? As the book Youth
Culture 101 says,
“we must teach our kids that the real measure of success in life
is how much they’d be worth if they had absolutely nothing.”
Have
you ever been guilty of referring to your needs as wants? When I
think of needs I think of something that is a necessity. Something
that you absolutely cannot live without. Water, food, clothes,
housing, etc… I think we all get the point. But have you noticed
that in our society these two words are considered interchangeable?
Upon many occasions I have heard teens talking to each other about
their “needs” and it makes me wonder do we really understand the
difference? I “need” that new cell-phone. I “need” those
pants. I “need” to see that movie. I “need” that new video
game.
Things that should be considered as wants are often referred
to as needs. This is not entirely our teens fault. We live in a
world that teaches us we can “have it our way.” The average
American’s standard for living is often set so high that things
like a flat screen TV, nice cars, laptops, and name brand clothing
become something we view as necessities. Today’s teens and even
adults don’t have a good perspective on material luxuries. We are
consumed with ourselves and the thought that “our” world is “the”
world. The level of poverty in many countries matters very little to
the average American teen.
There
are plenty of examples of this mindset all over today's popular
culture, but one in particular seems to stand out. MTV has a show
called “My Super Sweet Sixteen”. It is a reality TV show that
documents very rich families who want to give their child the best
birthday bash ever. The show documents the sweet 16er as they plan
every detail of their party. During the planning of the event, the
birthday boy/girl usually lashes out claiming their parents aren’t
getting specific details right. In some cases, disputes arise over
drapery or center pieces.
In other cases, arguments arise over grand
entrances, the birthday present, or the musical guest. If the parent
mentions cost or suggests that something might not be achievable you
wouldn’t believe the fit these teens will throw to get what they
want. Although they call these details “wants” they most
certainly treat them like “needs”. This show exemplifies the
idea that what I want is what's best for me. The reality is that we
shouldn't always get the things we want. The things that I want
often cause me heartache, pain, and lots of unnecessary debt.
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